Do you have to solder your engagement ring/wedding band set together after you are married?

I am newly engaged and was wondering if you have to have your engagement ring and your wedding band soldered together? all the women i know have them soldered

16 Responses to “Do you have to solder your engagement ring/wedding band set together after you are married?”

  1. NorthernLights says:

    You don’t HAVE to. Some just do because they want to.

    As you get older, some women don’t want to wear the "flashy" engagement ring anymore and choose to wear just the band so they don’t get them soldered so they can just wear the band. Or later they get an "anniversary band" and just wear that because they don’t want to wear just one ring from their wedding set

    Moms do that too because when dealing with children and activities it’s better to have a flat band on than a raised engagement ring.

  2. purplekitty627 says:

    I’ve been married for almost two years and this is the first time I’ve heard of that word.

  3. joe the jalapeno says:

    No its something people do to make it more special.

  4. mariahrose85 says:

    It’s funny, I just spoke to our jeweler about this yesterday. He said it’s entirely optional, but without doing it, the metal rubbing up against each other will wear oddly after a while, and it’s better for the metal in the long run.

  5. Victoria says:

    Congrats! You do not have to but I recommend it. I waited a year before I did and the rings rubbed against each other and left scratches.

  6. encourager4God says:

    It is totally up to you.

    Many just have them worn on the left hand but not soldered together.

  7. Amanda says:

    I didn’t know about this until earlier this year! It’s optional, not every one does it, I haven’t yet but I wish I would have! Where the rings rub together now they are scratched and sometimes it irritates my finger!

  8. Karlee says:

    I’d never do that because it looks tacky. Do what you want to do, bottom line. It’s your ring!

  9. Jenny Lynne says:

    No, I would not have this done, there will be times when you want to remove your diamond/engagement ring,ie. cleaning, gardening or when you have children. Too easy to get dirty and will accidentally scratch little ones. This way you can wear band to show you are married and only wear diamond on special occasions.

  10. Kelly says:

    Completely optional.

    Keep in mind if they are not, the metals rubbing against each other will start to show visible wear on them after a while.

  11. Katharine the Great says:

    I don’t know anyone that’s done it. I’d heard about it, but to me it seems silly. I like the option of occasionally wearing one or the other. I work with kids, so occasionally if we’re doing a really messy project my engagement ring isn’t appropriate, and I don’t want it to get dirty, but my wedding band isn’t an issue in that way.

  12. Caitlin says:

    It’s your decision. It’s not a requirement

  13. Lydia says:

    Gosh, no. My sister got her three rings soldered – and regretted it. She went out and bought just a plain gold band to wear sometimes.

    I wear my set together, but sometimes just want to wear my wedding band.

  14. Perse says:

    No you don’t have to.

  15. Ethan says:

    No, it is definitely not necessary. You don’t have to solder your engagement ring and wedding band together. It is truly a matter of preference and style of the ring sets that you have. Having them soldered together limits the way you can wear your rings. For example, you might want to wear the wedding band on the right hand and the engagement ring on the other. Or, you might want to wear the wedding band only on certain days when you might not want to have the typically more expensive engagement ring. Soldering the rings together does not give you that choice. If you most have the connected look, I would suggest soldering the wedding bands together with a space in the middle for the engagement ring to slide between them.

    I know http://www.DreamStone.com does custom work on engagement rings. Check them out.

  16. Meskee says:

    No you do not HAVE to. I personally like the option of wearing one or both of my rings whenever I want.